Category: LGBTQ

Society Is Transitioning


(My friend’s name is Niamh. It’s pronounced NEE-uv. She uses Neil while ordering simply for ease. She looks tomboy but still identifies as female.)

Friend: “Neil.”

Male Employee: “N-E-I-L?”

Friend: “Yes.”

Male Employee: “Okay, sir!” *smile*

Friend: “Uh, thanks.”

(She and I are still here an hour later studying when he approaches us.)

Male Employee: “I’m off shift and noticed you are still around.”

Friend: “Yeah.”

Male Employee: “I thought I’d give you these.”

(He hands her a piece a paper.)

Friend: “Oh… uh.” *surprised*

Male Employee: “I support you, Neil. You’re a handsome man. Be safe.” *waves and leaves*

Me: “Woah. That was…?”

Friend: *hands me the paper*

(The paper has many handwritten links. They are all about LGBTQ and the election. Even though he misread the situation thinking she identified as trans-guy, that was amazing support for the community. We’re giving those links to our LGBTQ friends!)


| Seattle, WA, USA | Kind Strangers, LGBTQ

(I’m a young FTM transgender teen, and struggle daily with dysphoria – a form of depression. I don’t do many sports, and don’t do a lot outside of school. One thing I love is working in my local theater (for plays and musicals, not the cinema). Oftentimes when I’m free I’ll hang out in the lobby and make light chatter with the audience before the show. If it’s cold outside, I’ll usually hold the door when I see people coming, as the door handle outside can get really, really, cold. I see an older couple approaching the stairs. I go outside and hold the door for them.)

Old Woman: “Good evening!”

Me: “Evening, miss!”

Old Man: “Thank you very much, sir!”

Me: *beaming* “You’re very welcome!”

(That little ‘sir’ he said, even though he had no idea what I was dealing with inside, brightened my whole evening and had me smiling all night.)

Do To Others As You Would Have Them Do To You

| Charlotte, NC, USA | Awesome, Kind Strangers, LGBTQ

(My youth pastor and I went out to lunch today to just talk about life without feeling pressure from a church setting or parents around. I’ve been venting to him about how helpless I am when my girlfriend tells me she’s having a hard time, as we are in a long-distance relationship and neither of us are of age.)

Me: “I just feel like I can’t do anything sometimes, you know? I can’t do anything to help her but tell her I love her and support her.”

Pastor: “Well, has she been thinking about leaving her parents as soon as she can? She’ll be an adult soon, right?”

Me: “Of course, but neither she nor her family have much money to move out or travel with. She even helps pay bills with money from her job.”

Pastor: “You know what? When she turns 18, I’ll pay for her bus or plane travel myself, if you can find a place to put her up. [Local LGBT+ help organization] is setting up housing soon.”

Me: “Wow, really? Thank you!”

(My pastor isn’t particularly affluent himself, so this meant an awful lot to me. My mom’s said she can stay in our extra room until she gets on her feet as well, and now it’s just a waiting game!)

Stronger Together

| Minneapolis, MN, USA | Awesome, Coworkers, LGBTQ

(It is November 11th, 2016. I’m openly lesbian, and don’t “pass” for straight due to my unique hair and androgynous dress. Unfortunately, there’s a huge rise in hate crimes after the election, and I have been shoved, called names, and had my car vandalized so far. Even though I am just starting out as a lawyer, I can’t stop these things happening. I am talking about the hate crimes issue with a colleague.)

Me: “…so there’s been a lot more anti-minority and anti-gay harassment lately. People feel emboldened, you know? So do you think you could walk me out of work today?”

(Colleague #2, who is a new immigrant from a conservative south Asian country, stops after walking by and hearing this. He smiles.)

Colleague #2: “Do you know what I would do? I would… tell them ‘oh, you’re harassing this gay person? Would you perhaps now like to meet my .38 special?’”

Colleague #1: *describing himself* “Or do you want a six foot six Norwegian carrying a bat?”

(I knew they were joking, but it meant a lot that two very different people felt so strongly about protecting me!)

Scared You Will Come To Bows

| CA, USA | Awesome, LGBTQ, Students

(I am a student teacher working in an American and Contemporary Literature class with eleventh and twelfth graders. While I am biologically female, I identify as genderfluid and dress in a very masculine fashion. As a result, my attire occasionally includes bowties. We are at the computer lab working on research papers when a student of mine – a star athlete at the school – calls me over.)

Me: “What’s up, [Student]?”

Student: “So, I notice that sometimes you wear bowties.”

Me: “That I do.”

Student: “I was actually wondering if you could teach me how to tie a bowtie.”

(I find this to be very sweet, but I also can’t help chuckling.)

Me: “I actually have a confession to make: I don’t know how to tie a bowtie, either. Almost all of my bowties are pre-tied or clip-on.”

Student: “Oh, really?”

Me: “Yeah. You wanna know the funny part, though? My fiancée can tie bowties, and she doesn’t even wear them.”

Student: “No way. So she ties them for you?”

Me: “Yep! I mean, I only own a couple of bowties that I need tied, anyway. Like I said, the rest are clip-on.” *jokingly* “Sorry that I’m kind of a phony when it comes to that!”

(My student and I both laughed before he went back to work. Sometimes I feel like teenagers are more accepting and tolerant of others’ appearances than adults are!)

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